Finding Motivation: What To Do When You Don't Feel Like Doing Anything
by Chris Widener
“The measure of your success usually comes down to who wins the battle that rages between the two of you. The ‘you’ who wants to stop, give up, or take it easy, and the ‘you’ who chooses to beat back that which would stand in the way of your success - complacency.” Chris Widener
In all of my interactions with people, I've never found anyone, regardless of their level of success, who doesn't sometimes find themselves simply not wanting to do the things that they need and want to do. It is a part of human nature that there will be times that, in spite of all that we need to do, and even desire to, we will find ourselves not wanting to do anything. And what separates those who will become successful from those who will maintain the status-quo, is the ability at those very crucial moments of time when we are making decisions about what we will do, to choose to find the inner motivation that will enable us to conquer our complacency and move on in action.
I find that I confront this issue in my life on a regular basis, so the following success strategies are not merely pie in the sky techniques, but proven ways to get yourself to go even when you don't feel like doing anything. Honestly evaluate whether or not you need a break This is the first thing that I usually do what I find that I don't want to get to a specific action. The fact is that oftentimes we will have been working very hard and the lethargy we are feeling is really our body and emotions telling us that we simply need a break. And this is where it takes real intellectual honesty because when we don't need a break our mind is still telling us we need a break! But sometimes we do need a break. I'll give you a good example. I don't particularly like to exercise, but I do almost every day. Sometimes, I find myself before going to the club thinking about how I just didn't feel like going. Most of the time I am just being lazy. However, sometimes I realize that my body needs a break. So from time to time I will take a one or two daybreak from working out. The benefits of this are two-fold: One, my body gets a break to regenerate itself. Two, after a day or two, I begin to miss my workout, and eagerly anticipate a turning to the gym.
Other examples: Perhaps you are a salesman who has been phoning clients for a week straight, day and night. You wake up one morning and just don’t feel like doing it any more. Well, take a break for the morning. Go to a coffee shop and read the paper. Go to the driving range and hit some golf balls. Take a break and then get back to it!
Start small
I'm at a point in my workout schedule now where a typical workout day for me consists of 30 to 45 minutes of aerobic exercise, and about 30 minutes of weight lifting. So when I find myself not wanting to get up and go to the gym, I will sometimes make a commitment to go and just do a smaller workout. Instead of deciding not to go, I'll commit to doing 15 to 20 minutes of aerobic exercise and 15 to 30 minutes of weight lifting. This is also good for two reasons. One, I actually get some exercise that day. And two, it keeps me from getting into a cycle of giving up when I don't feel like moving toward action.
Other examples: Maybe you are a writer who simply doesn’t want to write today. Instead of the long day writing you had planned, decide that you will at least outline a couple of new articles. You will at least get these done, and you may have found that you put yourself into the writing mood after all.
Change your routine
I have found that what keeps me in the best shape and burns the most calories for me, is to do 30 to 45 minutes on the treadmill every day. Now let me be very blunt.
I find running on the treadmill to be extremely boring. Usually I can get myself to do it, but sometimes I need to vary my routine. So instead of 30 to 45 minutes on a treadmill, I will break down my aerobic exercise routine into a number of different areas. I will do ten to 15 minutes on treadmills, 10 to 15 minutes on the reclining cycle, 5 to 10 minutes on the rowing machine, 5 to 10 minutes on the stair stepper, and then back on to the treadmill for five to 10 minutes. I still get my exercise, but I'm bored a lot less.
Other examples: Maybe you are in construction and you have been working on the plumbing for a week, and it is getting monotonous. Don’t do the plumbing today! Go frame-in the office.
Reward yourself
One way that I motivate myself to do something when I don't feel like doing it, is to tell myself that if I get through the work that I need to, I will give myself a little reward. For instance, I may tell myself if I to get up and go to the club I can take five to 10 minutes off my treadmill exercise, which will shorten my workout routine, and I'll allow myself to sit in the hot tub for a few extra minutes. Hey, it works!
Other examples: Maybe you are a mortgage broker who feels like sleeping in. Tell yourself that after the next three mortgages you close you will take your kids to the fair, or your spouse to the movies. Maybe you’ll give yourself a night on the town with old friends.
Reconnect the action with pleasure rather than pain
Psychologists have long told us that we humans tend to connect every action with either pleasure or pain. Tony Robbins has popularized this even further in the last few years with something he calls Neural Associations. That is, we connect every action with either a pleasure, or pain. When we are finding ourselves lacking motivation, what we are probably finding about ourselves is that we are associating the action that we are thinking about with pain, rather than pleasure. For instance, when I'm considering that not going to the health club on any given day, I am usually associating going and working out with having no time, the pain of exercising and weight lifting, or the boringness of running on a treadmill for an extended period of time. What I can do to re-associate is to remind myself that by going in and doing my exercise I will feel better about myself, I will lose weight, and I will live longer. This brings me pleasure. When we begin to run those kinds of tapes through our minds, we find our internal motivating force unleashed and changing our attitude about the action that we are considering.
Other examples: Maybe you are a counselor who really doesn’t want to spend the day listening to people. Your association may be that it will be boring, or that you will be inside while it is sunny outside. Instead, re-associate yourself to the truth of the matter: Someone will be better off because of your care and concern. Think of your clients and the progression they have been making recently and how you have been a part of that.
CHRIS WIDENER
Chris Widener is a popular American motivational speaker, author, and owner of two very popular motivational websites online (Made for Success & Extraodinary Leaders).
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
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Sunday, August 16, 2009
Answers to the 2plus7 and Ambit - What is it about?
There have been many questions regarding what the 2plus7 is all about and how it all works.
The 2plus7 program is an ingenious program that offers a tremendous amount of benefits to it's 2plus7 members and also offers a unique compensation plan just for referring others to the 2plus7's benefits program.
This is what you get for only $27 with the 2plus7's benefits program:
•Mortgage software - $1,500 value, pay off your 30 yr mortgage in 1/3 the time
•Nutritionist - $1000 Value, Instruction on eating properly and healthy
•Medical Doctor -$1000 Value, medical updates daily
•Natural Doctor - $1000 Value, natural cures
•Dr. Forex - $1000 Value, learn how to trade on the Forex market
by a professional.
•Event Planner - $500 Value, Secret Savings planning events such as weddings.
•Animal Therapist - $500 Value, books, how to handle your pet and other animals.
•Motivational - $1000 Value, motivational information on audio, and articles.
•Personal Development Coach - $500 Value
•Internet Tool Box - $500, All the free stuff from the internet all in one place
•National Chef - $500 Value, videos, prepare, cook, and present like a chef.
•National Discounts - SAVE THOUSANDS!! on companies like Avis, Chilies Starbucks, Disney, etc.
•Magician - $1,000 Value, learn magic tricks from a illusionist Dan Cain
•Personal Trainer - $1,000 Value, Former NFL Player Jerry Dorsey designs you workouts
•Lead Generation System - $1,000 Value, New leads and leads management system.
•Dancing - $1,000 Value. Learn to dance with a 10X National Champion as a Dance Instructor.
•Tax software - April 15 - $5000 value, created for home based businesses
•Internet Marketing - $10,000 Value, Learn how to do internet marketing.
We also offer benefits through our discount program:
Prescription discount card - Can save you hundreds of dollars a month Automobile membership program similar to AAA ($59 value)
Grocery store - 11 pages of grocery store discounts, $2.50 off diapers, $1 off Tony's Pizza and much more...
Cash Back Mall - Save hundreds of dollars shopping at your cash back mall and get paid to shop...
How do you make money with the 2plus7 benefits program?
It's one straight line. Refer 2 people and you will automatically get the next 7 enrollees that enroll from anywhere in the world. You also get your $27 right back.
You
Your Referral 1
Your Referral 2
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
_________
$27
Your 7 People will always be there.. You Keep your 2 Qualifying Referrals in Play and you will cycle Over and Over and Over!
You can do this as many times as you want. Every time you Enroll 2 it follows the same suite.
Now, do you have to enroll millions of people- the answer is Absolutely Not! Your 7 Sales that you Need to Cycle will Be unlimited! They will always be there Over and Over!
Here is another example:
If you sign up Jill and Jill signs up Bob and Bob is a super network marketer! Lets say Bob cycles 100 times in 3 days!! Bob made $2,700, Bob comes back to Jill 100 times; so Jill cycles 50 times and makes $1,350.00
What??? Jill comes back to you, 50 times and you Cycle 25 times. That's $545.00 just from Bob's efforts that comes back to you!!
You can make $810 a month and it will grow from there by just doing the following:
Enroll 6 and teach them how to Enroll 6 and if they just Enroll 4 you just made $810 for the month.
Become an executive director and you will make $7,290 a month over and over and over again.
Enroll 10 who refer 8 who refer 6 and you will cycle 270 times X $27 = $7,290
These are just the first 2 promotions. There are many more that generates a lot more money.
Who introduced me to it? One of my Ambit Consultants, Ken Tallman, was talking about it one day. He was telling me that the company offers a automotive service for only $22 for the year and its the same as what AAA charges for $59. Not only that, $12.50 of it goes to feed the children. It's a Christian based organization.
You can go directly to the site and watch the movie at 2plus7
To me this was a no brainier and it also can help people with internet marketing, which is big on my list as I have been doing it for many years www.getreps.com.
The other question that has arisen is, am still doing Ambit? The answer is of course I am. I love Ambit and the Ambit Team. Ambit is a really great program that allows people to get paid by offering people a free gas and electric program. The problem, however, is Ambit is only open in New York, Texas and Illinois, at this time, and it is difficult for people to build a successful business if it's not open in their state yet. Ambit Energy
One of the reasons for joining the 2plus7 team is not only does it add an additional income stream, it can help the people who want to join Ambit Energy and don't have the start up capital, a way to earn it relatively quickly.
The 2plus7 program is an ingenious program that offers a tremendous amount of benefits to it's 2plus7 members and also offers a unique compensation plan just for referring others to the 2plus7's benefits program.
This is what you get for only $27 with the 2plus7's benefits program:
•Mortgage software - $1,500 value, pay off your 30 yr mortgage in 1/3 the time
•Nutritionist - $1000 Value, Instruction on eating properly and healthy
•Medical Doctor -$1000 Value, medical updates daily
•Natural Doctor - $1000 Value, natural cures
•Dr. Forex - $1000 Value, learn how to trade on the Forex market
by a professional.
•Event Planner - $500 Value, Secret Savings planning events such as weddings.
•Animal Therapist - $500 Value, books, how to handle your pet and other animals.
•Motivational - $1000 Value, motivational information on audio, and articles.
•Personal Development Coach - $500 Value
•Internet Tool Box - $500, All the free stuff from the internet all in one place
•National Chef - $500 Value, videos, prepare, cook, and present like a chef.
•National Discounts - SAVE THOUSANDS!! on companies like Avis, Chilies Starbucks, Disney, etc.
•Magician - $1,000 Value, learn magic tricks from a illusionist Dan Cain
•Personal Trainer - $1,000 Value, Former NFL Player Jerry Dorsey designs you workouts
•Lead Generation System - $1,000 Value, New leads and leads management system.
•Dancing - $1,000 Value. Learn to dance with a 10X National Champion as a Dance Instructor.
•Tax software - April 15 - $5000 value, created for home based businesses
•Internet Marketing - $10,000 Value, Learn how to do internet marketing.
We also offer benefits through our discount program:
Prescription discount card - Can save you hundreds of dollars a month Automobile membership program similar to AAA ($59 value)
Grocery store - 11 pages of grocery store discounts, $2.50 off diapers, $1 off Tony's Pizza and much more...
Cash Back Mall - Save hundreds of dollars shopping at your cash back mall and get paid to shop...
How do you make money with the 2plus7 benefits program?
It's one straight line. Refer 2 people and you will automatically get the next 7 enrollees that enroll from anywhere in the world. You also get your $27 right back.
You
Your Referral 1
Your Referral 2
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
Anyone
_________
$27
Your 7 People will always be there.. You Keep your 2 Qualifying Referrals in Play and you will cycle Over and Over and Over!
You can do this as many times as you want. Every time you Enroll 2 it follows the same suite.
Now, do you have to enroll millions of people- the answer is Absolutely Not! Your 7 Sales that you Need to Cycle will Be unlimited! They will always be there Over and Over!
Here is another example:
If you sign up Jill and Jill signs up Bob and Bob is a super network marketer! Lets say Bob cycles 100 times in 3 days!! Bob made $2,700, Bob comes back to Jill 100 times; so Jill cycles 50 times and makes $1,350.00
What??? Jill comes back to you, 50 times and you Cycle 25 times. That's $545.00 just from Bob's efforts that comes back to you!!
You can make $810 a month and it will grow from there by just doing the following:
Enroll 6 and teach them how to Enroll 6 and if they just Enroll 4 you just made $810 for the month.
Become an executive director and you will make $7,290 a month over and over and over again.
Enroll 10 who refer 8 who refer 6 and you will cycle 270 times X $27 = $7,290
These are just the first 2 promotions. There are many more that generates a lot more money.
Who introduced me to it? One of my Ambit Consultants, Ken Tallman, was talking about it one day. He was telling me that the company offers a automotive service for only $22 for the year and its the same as what AAA charges for $59. Not only that, $12.50 of it goes to feed the children. It's a Christian based organization.
You can go directly to the site and watch the movie at 2plus7
To me this was a no brainier and it also can help people with internet marketing, which is big on my list as I have been doing it for many years www.getreps.com.
The other question that has arisen is, am still doing Ambit? The answer is of course I am. I love Ambit and the Ambit Team. Ambit is a really great program that allows people to get paid by offering people a free gas and electric program. The problem, however, is Ambit is only open in New York, Texas and Illinois, at this time, and it is difficult for people to build a successful business if it's not open in their state yet. Ambit Energy
One of the reasons for joining the 2plus7 team is not only does it add an additional income stream, it can help the people who want to join Ambit Energy and don't have the start up capital, a way to earn it relatively quickly.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Health Care Reform Bill H.R. 3200
There has been much heated debate over the Obama and democratic health care bill lately. The media makes it seem that it is a democrat and republican matter. Rich vs. poor and pharmaceutical companies vs. middle America. It's true that they all have strong feelings and opinions on what would happen if the government nationalized health care bill passes, but it should be discussed and debated by every American.
I truly believe that all Americans have strong feelings and opinions on the national health care bill and it is not just some kind of political matter or ploy. There are plenty of Americans that do not participate in politics and I happen to know some. These people are concerned what will happen if the national health care bill passes.
I was lucky enough to have a friend of mine send me the authenticated government copy of the health care bill.
I am posting it so that you can read the health care reform bill. You can get all the facts so you can make an educated decision as to whether you should support the bill or not.
Read the bill and then contact your local congressman.if you have any questions regarding the health care bill.
CLICK HERE TO SAVE AND READ THE AUTHENTICATED 1,017 PAGE HEALTH CARE REFROM BILL It could take a minute or two to load depending on what type of internet service you have.
I truly believe that all Americans have strong feelings and opinions on the national health care bill and it is not just some kind of political matter or ploy. There are plenty of Americans that do not participate in politics and I happen to know some. These people are concerned what will happen if the national health care bill passes.
I was lucky enough to have a friend of mine send me the authenticated government copy of the health care bill.
I am posting it so that you can read the health care reform bill. You can get all the facts so you can make an educated decision as to whether you should support the bill or not.
Read the bill and then contact your local congressman.if you have any questions regarding the health care bill.
CLICK HERE TO SAVE AND READ THE AUTHENTICATED 1,017 PAGE HEALTH CARE REFROM BILL It could take a minute or two to load depending on what type of internet service you have.
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Coping and Learned Optimism
Coping
by Martin Seligman
"How you handle adversity in the workplace tends to have much more impact on your career than how you handle the good stuff."
From: Issue 20 | November 1998 | Page 196 | By: Heath Row
What do National League baseball teams that rally to win late-inning games have in common with highly productive workers? According to Martin Seligman, president of the American Psychological Association, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of "Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life" (Pocket Books, 1990), the answer is, quite a lot.
While studying the performance of players and managers in Major League Baseball, and of players and coaches in the National Basketball Association, Seligman found a remarkable correlation: Optimistic teams -- as measured by how they talk about their performance in the sports press -- play better under pressure than do pessimistic teams. For Seligman, the finding marked a new way to think about competition, work, and life. "For my whole life, the field of psychology has concentrated on correcting what's wrong," says Seligman. "But rather than trying to minimize what's worst in life, we should maximize what's best."
Seligman developed the concept of "learned optimism" -- and applied it directly to workplace productivity. "When pessimistic people run into obstacles in the workplace, in relationships, or in sports, they give up," he says. "When optimistic people encounter obstacles, they try harder. They go the extra mile."
What is Seligman's advice on learning to be optimistic? Realize that when you react to adversity, you're reacting not to an event but to how you feel about that event. You may not be able to control what happens to you -- but you do have some control over your emotions. "When adversity strikes, how you think and what you believe determine how you feel and what you do," he says.
Optimism in difficult situations, says Seligman, not only wins close ball games -- it also helps people to grow in their careers. "How you handle adversity in the workplace tends to have much more impact on your career than how you handle the good stuff," Seligman says. "The people who know how to overcome adversity are the ones who rise to the top of the organization."
Heath Row (hrow@fastcompany.com) is a Fast Company associate editor. Contact Martin Seligman by email (marty@apa.org).
by Martin Seligman
"How you handle adversity in the workplace tends to have much more impact on your career than how you handle the good stuff."
From: Issue 20 | November 1998 | Page 196 | By: Heath Row
What do National League baseball teams that rally to win late-inning games have in common with highly productive workers? According to Martin Seligman, president of the American Psychological Association, professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of "Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life" (Pocket Books, 1990), the answer is, quite a lot.
While studying the performance of players and managers in Major League Baseball, and of players and coaches in the National Basketball Association, Seligman found a remarkable correlation: Optimistic teams -- as measured by how they talk about their performance in the sports press -- play better under pressure than do pessimistic teams. For Seligman, the finding marked a new way to think about competition, work, and life. "For my whole life, the field of psychology has concentrated on correcting what's wrong," says Seligman. "But rather than trying to minimize what's worst in life, we should maximize what's best."
Seligman developed the concept of "learned optimism" -- and applied it directly to workplace productivity. "When pessimistic people run into obstacles in the workplace, in relationships, or in sports, they give up," he says. "When optimistic people encounter obstacles, they try harder. They go the extra mile."
What is Seligman's advice on learning to be optimistic? Realize that when you react to adversity, you're reacting not to an event but to how you feel about that event. You may not be able to control what happens to you -- but you do have some control over your emotions. "When adversity strikes, how you think and what you believe determine how you feel and what you do," he says.
Optimism in difficult situations, says Seligman, not only wins close ball games -- it also helps people to grow in their careers. "How you handle adversity in the workplace tends to have much more impact on your career than how you handle the good stuff," Seligman says. "The people who know how to overcome adversity are the ones who rise to the top of the organization."
Heath Row (hrow@fastcompany.com) is a Fast Company associate editor. Contact Martin Seligman by email (marty@apa.org).
Sunday, August 2, 2009
100% Responsibility by Jack Canfield
I have been going through some old training files that I have had for quite sometime and am finding a ton of great motivational articles. My goal is to help others who seek motivation in reaching goals.
I am starting a new facebook group on Motivational Goal Group - Setting and Achieving Daily Goals. You are welcome to join the group. It's open to all. http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=110548793206
Jack Canfields, 100% Responsibility is one of many posts that you will be seeing in the futures. It's worth the read.
100% Responsibility
by Jack Canfield
It’s time to meet the person who has been responsible for the life you live right now.
This person has created your income, your debt, your relationships, your health, your fitness level, your weight, your attitudes and your behaviors. Who is it? To introduce yourself, just walk to the closest mirror and say hello! This person is you!
Although one of the popular myths out there is that "external factors" determine how you live, the truth of the matter is that you are in complete control of the quality of your life.
It’s time to look at the life you’ve created and determine what is working and what is not. Certainly there are wonderful things happening in your life, whether it’s your job, your spouse, your grades, your children, your friends, or your income level.
Congratulate yourself on these successes; you are creating them for yourself! And then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?
It’s time to stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness.
When you realize that you create your experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and create new experiences whenever you want. But you must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times. When you stop blaming, you can take that energy and redirect to focus on creating a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up your energy.
It’s also time to stop complaining.
Look at what you are complaining about. Really examine it. More than likely it is something that you can do something about.
Are you unhappy about something that is happening? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable to you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? Face the facts that you can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.
Successful people take 100% responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images that visualize and the actions they take.
They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.
Taking responsibility requires you to first decide to believe that you create all your experiences. Second, to pay attention to yourself, your behavior, and your life experiences. And last, to face the truth and deal with what is not working in your life. You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be?
Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for your every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!
© 2007 Jack Canfield
WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America’s Success Coach, is the founder and co-creator of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul and a leading authority on Peak Performance. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: http://www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
I am starting a new facebook group on Motivational Goal Group - Setting and Achieving Daily Goals. You are welcome to join the group. It's open to all. http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=110548793206
Jack Canfields, 100% Responsibility is one of many posts that you will be seeing in the futures. It's worth the read.
100% Responsibility
by Jack Canfield
It’s time to meet the person who has been responsible for the life you live right now.
This person has created your income, your debt, your relationships, your health, your fitness level, your weight, your attitudes and your behaviors. Who is it? To introduce yourself, just walk to the closest mirror and say hello! This person is you!
Although one of the popular myths out there is that "external factors" determine how you live, the truth of the matter is that you are in complete control of the quality of your life.
It’s time to look at the life you’ve created and determine what is working and what is not. Certainly there are wonderful things happening in your life, whether it’s your job, your spouse, your grades, your children, your friends, or your income level.
Congratulate yourself on these successes; you are creating them for yourself! And then take a look at what isn’t working out so well. What are you doing or not doing to create those experiences?
It’s time to stop blaming outside factors for your unhappiness.
When you realize that you create your experiences, you’ll realize that you can un-create them and create new experiences whenever you want. But you must take responsibility for your happiness and your unhappiness, your successes and your failures, your good times and your bad times. When you stop blaming, you can take that energy and redirect to focus on creating a better situation for yourself. Blaming only ties up your energy.
It’s also time to stop complaining.
Look at what you are complaining about. Really examine it. More than likely it is something that you can do something about.
Are you unhappy about something that is happening? Make requests that will make it more desirable to you, or take the steps to change it yourself. Making a change might be uncomfortable to you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? Face the facts that you can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.
Successful people take 100% responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images that visualize and the actions they take.
They don't waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not. They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live.
Taking responsibility requires you to first decide to believe that you create all your experiences. Second, to pay attention to yourself, your behavior, and your life experiences. And last, to face the truth and deal with what is not working in your life. You have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be?
Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for your every aspect of your life. Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions!
© 2007 Jack Canfield
WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEB SITE?
You can, as long as you include this complete statement with it: Jack Canfield, America’s Success Coach, is the founder and co-creator of the billion-dollar book brand Chicken Soup for the Soul and a leading authority on Peak Performance. If you're ready to jump-start your life, make more money, and have more fun and joy in all that you do, get your FREE success tips from Jack Canfield now at: http://www.FreeSuccessStrategies.com
Monday, June 22, 2009
How to Explode Your Team and Duplicate Your Efforts in Network Marketing, MLM, or Affiliate Programs.
Today we are going to cover a couple of different topics and the first one is about working with people. Sometimes when we start a business it’s easy to get caught up in making a sale or- in network marketing and affiliate programs- to get new members to join our team because we are excited about the income possibilities of growing a business.
We sometimes have a tendency to forget that we need to deal with people and treat people not as dollar signs. I see this over and over again when new people join my team and it’s not intentional. It’s an exciting idea to be able to have the opportunity to make your life time dreams come true.
I am going to specifically talk about building a network marketing or affiliate business and not selling products or services right now.
While you are building your business, be aware of how you approach people. You don’t want to come across like a salesman and you don’t want to blab everything you know about your business to someone you approach. People flat out will not want to deal with you. Especially your family and friends. They know you best and they know you know absolutely nothing about the business you just joined. Right?
The best way to get your business in front of people is to find 3-4 main highlights about your business and then sit down and do a one on one with a dvd, website or your local business presentation.
Your job is only to get people agree to look at the business opportunity and not to sell them in the business. Once they take a look at the business, let them make the decision if they want be a part of it or not. Now, if they have questions, you should not be the one answering them. Especially if these people are your family and friends. Because they know you know nothing about the business that you joined. You should have your sponsor or a fellow team member answer the questions for you. That person is the expert and is a 3rd party credibility for you.
Let me give you an example on how this works with Ambit Energy:
I go to my friend Ken and ask Ken the following:
Ken, let me ask you something: How many people do you know that use gas and electric.
Ken’s going to say something like “Everyone”.
I say right.
How many of those people would like to pay less or potentially get it for free?
Chances are the answer is going to be “Everyone.”
Ken, how would you like to make money just for referring people to the program?
Chances are that Ken is going to say “how do I do that”?
At that time, you do not say anything else about the business. STOP! I tell my team to write those questions down and to put stop in big letters right after that.
Now if you have a product company, you may want to use something like:
How many people do you know that use….input your product or service
How many of those people would like to benefit….you add the benefits
How would you like to make money referring people to the program?
Then stop!
Now, here is where most people get into trouble. They ask you the dreaded question of “what’s this all about”? And here is where you need to be really disciplined or you could loose a really good person on your team…
You should always respond with: I would love to go into over the phone and it wouldn’t make any sense to you because you are not seeing what I see. When can we get together and I will show it to you. Or, can you meet me at the Marriott this Tuesday at 7:15 and you can meet our local team of professionals. If that doesn’t work for the person, then, as a last resort, send them to your website.
Whatever you do, after you ask the 3 questions, do not go beyond there with any information about your business. Your job is to get the information in front of people and not to tell and sell.
When working a network marketing or affiliate program, we have to remember to check our egos at the door and remind our selves that we are not the expert. Our job is to just get the information in front of the people and if they have questions to put them in touch with the expert which is your partner or fellow team member.
You can also use another technique- which works for me - I beg people to come to the local meeting or to sit down with me for practice. It works every time with family and friends.
I just did it a couple of weeks ago with my sister in-law. The conversation went like this…Julie, it’s Michele. I know you don’t want to do Ambit, but could you do me a huge favor and meet me at the Marriott on Tuesday at 7:15. I haven’t personally brought anyone in awhile and I need to lead by example and bring someone, can you do that for me? I’ll never ask you again, promise….She showed up and early. Now, she does not want to do the business, but she is giving me referrals because she understands it’s a good program. You never know where referrals can go. You could get your next superstar from referrals.
That leads me to share with you how important it is to ask people for referrals. I have to be honest, I just started getting good at asking for referrals this past week. Our company had a training event a few weekends ago and it dawned on me that I have been missing out on building my business bigger just by asking someone for just 1 referral.
This past week I asked my friend Carol, who looked at Ambit and it wasn’t for her, but she is sent me a name of someone she thought that may be interested. I called her friend Donna and said, I Donna, you don’t know me, but I am a friend of Carol's and she thought you may be interested in something.
Donna replies, well what is it? Let me ask you this: I simple asked her the above 3 questions and she naturally responded with “how do I do that”? Well Donna since we live a few hours away from each other, I would like to give you my website and I gave Donna my website and will be following up with Donna this afternoon.
Now, I don’t know if Donna is going to join or not, but I would have never had a chance to show Donna if it wasn’t for my friend Carol. And who knows, Donna could be the next superstar on my team.
Sometimes we forget that our job is to show the plan and not sell the plan and hopefully this makes sense to you.
Another thing I would like to address is that in a network marketing or affiliate programs we are dealing with all sorts of people. Not everyone is going to join your business. It’s not always easy to build a business because we are dealing with all sorts of people.
My friend and team member Patrick Nelson and I were recently talking about an old training that a friend of ours use to do and I thought I would share it with you.
Let’s say you were a waiter or waitress at a restaurant and you go to your table and ask people if they want a cup of coffee. The first table you go to has three people and you ask each one if they want coffee, do you want coffee. Person one says no thank you, person two says, no thanks, person 3 says sure. Not everyone likes coffee. Just like, not everyone is going to like your business opportunity or affiliate program. The fact is that some people are smart and will see it, some just know they are not motivated enough to do anything and some people, by design, are just plain lazy.
You don’t want everyone in your business. You want people that see it like you do and work with those people. That’s what makes it a fun business. If you sell someone on the business or convince people to do it, your business will not grow the way you want it to grow and you won’t have any fun.
The reason is because if you sell or convince people to join your business, you are going to have to convince them to go to training, get on conference calls, go to local meetings, and this is wasting your time and theirs as well. If you just keep it simple and sort through the people to find the ones that see it-like you see it, your team will explode and grow and you can spend your time working with those who want it and not wasting time with those who don’t.
It’s also important to understand when you are building your business, especially if you are new to the business; you need to stay away from people that do not see the business the way you do and stay far away from negative people. Those people will only bring you down and suck the life out of you. I firmly believe the statement “Misery Loves Company” I have family members that are just like it.
I don’t know if you ever heard of the crabs in the bucket story, but it’s a fact. If you were to have a bucket of crabs and watch them; when a crab tries to reach the top of the bucket-the other crabs will grab him and bring him back down. That’s exactly what your broke and negative friends will do for you if you let them.
We all have choices and those choices will either bring you closer to your dreams or take your dreams far away from you.
If you want to succeed in a network marketing or affiliate programs then you really need to change your habits and your way of thinking. It can be hard to do for some and you may have to dig down deep to find out why you joined. Make a commitment to yourself that you will not let anyone or anything steal your dreams.
Have you heard the saying, that if you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what your getting. It’s true. So if you do not like your current situation, the best advice that I can give you is the following…
Commit to your success and dedicate more time to your business. Some of you may be thinking, well I don’t have any more time. I assure you-that if you wrote down your daily habits there are things you could eliminate. Things like the nightly news (which, by the way, you should not be watching because it is one of those negative things that puts you in a negative frame of mind). I can tell you- from personal experience- that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit. And, if you committed to 21 days of not turning on the negative news, you won’t miss it and you will find that you are in a more positive frame of mind.
You should have your goals written down and read them daily. I have a slide show of my goals that I watch everyday. This will help you stay focused on your goals.
You should also spend 10-15 minutes a day reading or listening to positive, self help and motivational materials.
You also need to plug into any and all team trainings, meetings, online conferences and talk to your sponsor and business partners daily. By doing this, you are keeping yourself in a more positive environment because you are plugging into successful, positive and like minded people.
Picture this. Let’s put people into two groups for now. On your left side you have the people that are negative, not motivated and think you are nuts for doing that type of business.
And, on your right side you have a successful mentor, successful coaches and excited team members.
Which side do you want to be on? Who are the people that are more likely to help you achieve your dreams?
Everything I am talking with you about today- is everything that I have experienced in my businesses and I can assure you that the business model works. It’s up to us to make the choice to succeed or not to succeed.
Now, I am going to switch gears and talk with you a little about a marketing system that is getting me and some of my team members in front of a lot of people. That system is called LazyRecruiter.com.
This is one of the best and most affordable marketing systems that I have ever used. How would you like to advertise your business for only 1.5 cents a lead. I have not found any advertising that compares to cost and results.
Please join me on Twitter and Facebook.
We sometimes have a tendency to forget that we need to deal with people and treat people not as dollar signs. I see this over and over again when new people join my team and it’s not intentional. It’s an exciting idea to be able to have the opportunity to make your life time dreams come true.
I am going to specifically talk about building a network marketing or affiliate business and not selling products or services right now.
While you are building your business, be aware of how you approach people. You don’t want to come across like a salesman and you don’t want to blab everything you know about your business to someone you approach. People flat out will not want to deal with you. Especially your family and friends. They know you best and they know you know absolutely nothing about the business you just joined. Right?
The best way to get your business in front of people is to find 3-4 main highlights about your business and then sit down and do a one on one with a dvd, website or your local business presentation.
Your job is only to get people agree to look at the business opportunity and not to sell them in the business. Once they take a look at the business, let them make the decision if they want be a part of it or not. Now, if they have questions, you should not be the one answering them. Especially if these people are your family and friends. Because they know you know nothing about the business that you joined. You should have your sponsor or a fellow team member answer the questions for you. That person is the expert and is a 3rd party credibility for you.
Let me give you an example on how this works with Ambit Energy:
I go to my friend Ken and ask Ken the following:
Ken, let me ask you something: How many people do you know that use gas and electric.
Ken’s going to say something like “Everyone”.
I say right.
How many of those people would like to pay less or potentially get it for free?
Chances are the answer is going to be “Everyone.”
Ken, how would you like to make money just for referring people to the program?
Chances are that Ken is going to say “how do I do that”?
At that time, you do not say anything else about the business. STOP! I tell my team to write those questions down and to put stop in big letters right after that.
Now if you have a product company, you may want to use something like:
How many people do you know that use….input your product or service
How many of those people would like to benefit….you add the benefits
How would you like to make money referring people to the program?
Then stop!
Now, here is where most people get into trouble. They ask you the dreaded question of “what’s this all about”? And here is where you need to be really disciplined or you could loose a really good person on your team…
You should always respond with: I would love to go into over the phone and it wouldn’t make any sense to you because you are not seeing what I see. When can we get together and I will show it to you. Or, can you meet me at the Marriott this Tuesday at 7:15 and you can meet our local team of professionals. If that doesn’t work for the person, then, as a last resort, send them to your website.
Whatever you do, after you ask the 3 questions, do not go beyond there with any information about your business. Your job is to get the information in front of people and not to tell and sell.
When working a network marketing or affiliate program, we have to remember to check our egos at the door and remind our selves that we are not the expert. Our job is to just get the information in front of the people and if they have questions to put them in touch with the expert which is your partner or fellow team member.
You can also use another technique- which works for me - I beg people to come to the local meeting or to sit down with me for practice. It works every time with family and friends.
I just did it a couple of weeks ago with my sister in-law. The conversation went like this…Julie, it’s Michele. I know you don’t want to do Ambit, but could you do me a huge favor and meet me at the Marriott on Tuesday at 7:15. I haven’t personally brought anyone in awhile and I need to lead by example and bring someone, can you do that for me? I’ll never ask you again, promise….She showed up and early. Now, she does not want to do the business, but she is giving me referrals because she understands it’s a good program. You never know where referrals can go. You could get your next superstar from referrals.
That leads me to share with you how important it is to ask people for referrals. I have to be honest, I just started getting good at asking for referrals this past week. Our company had a training event a few weekends ago and it dawned on me that I have been missing out on building my business bigger just by asking someone for just 1 referral.
This past week I asked my friend Carol, who looked at Ambit and it wasn’t for her, but she is sent me a name of someone she thought that may be interested. I called her friend Donna and said, I Donna, you don’t know me, but I am a friend of Carol's and she thought you may be interested in something.
Donna replies, well what is it? Let me ask you this: I simple asked her the above 3 questions and she naturally responded with “how do I do that”? Well Donna since we live a few hours away from each other, I would like to give you my website and I gave Donna my website and will be following up with Donna this afternoon.
Now, I don’t know if Donna is going to join or not, but I would have never had a chance to show Donna if it wasn’t for my friend Carol. And who knows, Donna could be the next superstar on my team.
Sometimes we forget that our job is to show the plan and not sell the plan and hopefully this makes sense to you.
Another thing I would like to address is that in a network marketing or affiliate programs we are dealing with all sorts of people. Not everyone is going to join your business. It’s not always easy to build a business because we are dealing with all sorts of people.
My friend and team member Patrick Nelson and I were recently talking about an old training that a friend of ours use to do and I thought I would share it with you.
Let’s say you were a waiter or waitress at a restaurant and you go to your table and ask people if they want a cup of coffee. The first table you go to has three people and you ask each one if they want coffee, do you want coffee. Person one says no thank you, person two says, no thanks, person 3 says sure. Not everyone likes coffee. Just like, not everyone is going to like your business opportunity or affiliate program. The fact is that some people are smart and will see it, some just know they are not motivated enough to do anything and some people, by design, are just plain lazy.
You don’t want everyone in your business. You want people that see it like you do and work with those people. That’s what makes it a fun business. If you sell someone on the business or convince people to do it, your business will not grow the way you want it to grow and you won’t have any fun.
The reason is because if you sell or convince people to join your business, you are going to have to convince them to go to training, get on conference calls, go to local meetings, and this is wasting your time and theirs as well. If you just keep it simple and sort through the people to find the ones that see it-like you see it, your team will explode and grow and you can spend your time working with those who want it and not wasting time with those who don’t.
It’s also important to understand when you are building your business, especially if you are new to the business; you need to stay away from people that do not see the business the way you do and stay far away from negative people. Those people will only bring you down and suck the life out of you. I firmly believe the statement “Misery Loves Company” I have family members that are just like it.
I don’t know if you ever heard of the crabs in the bucket story, but it’s a fact. If you were to have a bucket of crabs and watch them; when a crab tries to reach the top of the bucket-the other crabs will grab him and bring him back down. That’s exactly what your broke and negative friends will do for you if you let them.
We all have choices and those choices will either bring you closer to your dreams or take your dreams far away from you.
If you want to succeed in a network marketing or affiliate programs then you really need to change your habits and your way of thinking. It can be hard to do for some and you may have to dig down deep to find out why you joined. Make a commitment to yourself that you will not let anyone or anything steal your dreams.
Have you heard the saying, that if you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what your getting. It’s true. So if you do not like your current situation, the best advice that I can give you is the following…
Commit to your success and dedicate more time to your business. Some of you may be thinking, well I don’t have any more time. I assure you-that if you wrote down your daily habits there are things you could eliminate. Things like the nightly news (which, by the way, you should not be watching because it is one of those negative things that puts you in a negative frame of mind). I can tell you- from personal experience- that it takes 21 days to make or break a habit. And, if you committed to 21 days of not turning on the negative news, you won’t miss it and you will find that you are in a more positive frame of mind.
You should have your goals written down and read them daily. I have a slide show of my goals that I watch everyday. This will help you stay focused on your goals.
You should also spend 10-15 minutes a day reading or listening to positive, self help and motivational materials.
You also need to plug into any and all team trainings, meetings, online conferences and talk to your sponsor and business partners daily. By doing this, you are keeping yourself in a more positive environment because you are plugging into successful, positive and like minded people.
Picture this. Let’s put people into two groups for now. On your left side you have the people that are negative, not motivated and think you are nuts for doing that type of business.
And, on your right side you have a successful mentor, successful coaches and excited team members.
Which side do you want to be on? Who are the people that are more likely to help you achieve your dreams?
Everything I am talking with you about today- is everything that I have experienced in my businesses and I can assure you that the business model works. It’s up to us to make the choice to succeed or not to succeed.
Now, I am going to switch gears and talk with you a little about a marketing system that is getting me and some of my team members in front of a lot of people. That system is called LazyRecruiter.com.
This is one of the best and most affordable marketing systems that I have ever used. How would you like to advertise your business for only 1.5 cents a lead. I have not found any advertising that compares to cost and results.
Please join me on Twitter and Facebook.
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